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Individual Therapy

What is Individual Therapy and what should I expect?

Individual therapy consists of just one person and one therapist. The therapist will discuss your concerns and take into consideration why you want to come in and why now? There is a relationship developed that is built on trust, empathy, compassion, and respect. As a result of this relationship those issues that you have identified are able to be revealed to your therapist.

This relationship is none other than you might have had before and varies from therapist to therapist. This is because therapists utilize their personal styles to deliver whatever form of therapy they are skilled with and that fit for you and your situation that brings you to therapy.

During this initial stage of therapy your therapist and you will decide on a course or goals to work on during therapy. Depending on the theory of change that your therapist ascribes to and the one that fits you and your situation the best will determine next steps. Some therapies rely heavily on in-session change and others on out-of-session change or both. The in-session change occurs as a result of dialogue that you have with your therapist and different ways of viewing yourself or your situation which leads to feeling, thinking, and/or behaving differently in your life and in the situation which brought you to therapy. The out-of-session change is a result of the former occurring after the session and/or as a result of incorporating new ways of behaving and/or interacting with others.

Lastly, individual therapy should not only feel like a change process for you but should feel like a supportive process that is free from judgment from your therapist. You should feel comfortable with your therapist in their knowledge and overall competency, as well as, having a feeling that they are working for you.

Family Therapy

What is Family Therapy and why do people participate in this type of therapy?

Family therapy is focused on the family relationships and the interplay between the individuals within the family. A family therapy session will include at least two members of a family and a good therapist will represent all the members in the room equally by taking into account each family members’ concerns and helping the family as a whole to improve their interactions and communication skills thus improving their relationships. Family therapy takes into account that there may be one person in the family that is struggling but other family members may be part
of the problem but more importantly could be part of the solution.

Families come to therapy for various reasons. Many times it is a result of children having difficulty and they are responding to difficult family situations and/or communication. In fact, the younger the child the more reason to incorporate family members into the treatment process. In other circumstances there might be individuals in a family that are experiencing substance abuse or addiction problems, depression or anxiety, or sometimes families just want to know how to better communicate with each other. There are also times in which families have experienced some kind of transition such as a death of a family member, a marriage or birth, retirement, or caring for someone who is disabled. Some of these events are positive but create an imbalance in a family system and thus can be stressful for families. Therapy can assist with talking about the problem(s) and creating communication thus solutions to this re-balancing of a “new normal”.

Couples Therapy

What is Couples Therapy and how do I know if it will help and my partner?

Couples therapy is a process in which there is a couple and a therapist. This can be a married couple, an unmarried couple or a same sex couple. The therapist looks at each individual and the relationship as the couple presents their problem. The problem may be viewed differently from each partner’s perspective and this is O.K. They can be in any developmental stage of their relationship and can be experiencing a variety of issues. Some couples come to therapy for infidelity, communication problems, conflict resolution, parenting concerns, addiction within the couple by one or both partners, or one or both partners may be experiencing a mental illness. Some couples come for pre-marital counseling or just to get a “tune-up”. The message is that there are no limits to what problems couples can bring to a therapy process.

However, when choosing a therapist you will want to be sure to choose one that is trained and/or knowledgeable about couples’ therapy and has experience working with the issue you are coming to therapy for. It is a different process from individual therapy and thus takes specific knowledge and training to deliver effective couples therapy. I always encourage people to check out prospective therapists about their qualifications and to also talk with them either on the phone or in person before making a commitment to working with them. Just as with any therapist both you and your partner need to feel that they are competent and that they are a good “fit” for both of you.

Couples therapy will help you if you do your homework as stated above when choosing a therapist. Also, it is helpful to come to therapy with an open mind and just as important be willing to look at your part in the relationship both in a positive and negative way. If you think about that you do not have power to change someone else but you do have the power to change what you do then change is more likely to occur.

Finally, please do not feel that because you are going to couples therapy that you and/or your partner are weak. In fact, just the opposite is true; if you can go to couples therapy this means that you are strong and are revealing the courage to work on your relationship. It simply means that you care enough about your relationship to take care of it through couples’ therapy just as you would take care of a broken leg with a medical doctor. I congratulate you on choosing to participate in the couples’ therapy process.